21-Year Old Decides Against Abortion

“I want to get it over with so I can get on with my life.” These were the words of a 21 year old considering whether to have an abortion.

After an abortion do you really get on with your life? There are some that think you do. A lot depends on how you see the child growing within. Is it a real person, or just a mistake you have made and abortion is like a pencil eraser removing the error? If one submits to the knowledge offered about the life they hold inside and still make the decision to have an abortion, guilt could be a haunting voice, like the pebble that lands in the oyster shell, causing the oyster to cover it with itself to stop the irritation.   

Young and about to make the biggest decision of her life, which unbeknownst to her, could impact her life now and in the future, what happened to change her mind about having an abortion? Could it be she waited too long to terminate? Maybe someone talked to her and got through? No one will ever know, except her and God.

Getting on with life after an abortion depends on you. Identify what you are feeling. Is it guilt?  Is it shame? Are you depressed? Guilt comes when something conflicts with what one has been taught is wrong, or know is wrong. Shame happens as a result of something happening that did not make you feel good about yourself.         

Things happen in life. Some we can control and others we cannot. You have to decide whether you are going to forgive yourself and turn away from what got you here in the first place. That is progress. Unless you like the feelings the abortion brought on. If you do, then you may want to look deeper, perhaps underneath the real culprit is a lack of self-worth. The abortion was just a symptom of what you have perceived as punishment for what you are feeling within and have nurtured over the years.

You can get on with your life after abortion, if you understand several things: You will have feelings, remorse, shame, may even feel depressed, face your “why,” do not deny these feelings, forgive yourself, ask God to forgive you and turn away from the behaviors that brought about the abortion. Remember that it is your choice: to condemn yourself forever, or to let it go.

Happy to report that baby whose mother wanted to have an abortion is now 21.